Today’s Small Paws tail comes from Barbara. It’s a beautiful story, but be sure to have a tissue handy.
My love of Bichons did not come about until our family acquired its first dog in 1992. We had many discussions about a family dog in the past but I refused to have a dog that would live outside in our sweltering summer heat. Since I had some allergies we had to systematically eliminate many of the breeds from the list. Over and over the subject was dropped as we were busy with our small children.
When our youngest was 10 she begged us for a dog and we promised her that if she could get straight A’s we would find her a dog. Sure enough the next grading period she presented us with a perfect report card.
We found an ad in the paper for a Bichon puppy. We looked up the breed in the encyclopedia and decided to visit the home where the puppy was. From the moment I saw the mother dog with her 10 week old pup through the glass door, I was hopelessly in love. My husband later said that he knew that we would be leaving with that dog the moment he saw my face. Beau, as we named him, sat between two girls in the back seat, curled up and promptly went to sleep.
As he grew up, Beau became a grumpy sort, but he and I were a “bonded pair”. Until that time I never understood that one could love a dog the way I loved this little man. (I needn’t go into detail here; everyone reading this explicitly understands the magic of a Bichon on a human being!).
When Beau was 11 years old we downsized and moved to a smaller home. I worried that the transition would be difficult for him, but since the front yard was fenced and the house had a large front porch, he quickly found his “throne” at the top of the porch steps. This was a dog neighborhood and Beau delighted in visiting the neighborhood dogs through the fence.
It was then that we learned about breed rescue from a friend; we wanted another Bichon but refused to buy from a pet store and didn’t necessarily want a puppy. After some research, many phone calls, interviews and home visits we adopted Mimi, a three year old female. Beau was thoroughly affronted, turning his back to us and sulking, but after a few weeks he was like us; completely won over by this smiling skipping exuberant little girl.
As Beau became a geriatric dog and started to decline, Mimi was there to guide him on his walks. As long as he could sense her presence he could follow and still enjoy the things that make a dog happy. When months later, when we could see that his quality of life had waned to nearly nothing, we had to make the difficult decision to euthanize him. We were grief stricken and the sadness of our loss seemed unbearable. It was then that I decided that I couldn’t possibly go through this grief again. When I confided in my rescue friend that there would be no more dogs in my life she unhesitatingly told me that I needed to get over my loss and adopt another dog, that there were too many homeless dogs in this world to let myself feel that way. I felt as though someone had thrown ice water in my face. I gasped, and when I caught my breath I realized that she was right.
A few days later I found the Small Paws rescue site and sat with tears streaming down my face looking at the pictures of all of the Bichon and Bichon mixes up for adoption. How could we possibly decide on which dog we should adopt, they were all so adorable and needing a home. I sat for hours looking at pictures and reading descriptions. Then, there he was; a little fellow with a sad face. There was something about the way he looked out at me from his picture that reminded me so much of Beau. I know that this may sound strange, but I had the odd feeling that Beau was sending us this sad pup because he needed us as much as we needed him. When I talked with his foster family they told me that Rob was a Bichon Poodle mix rescue from a puppy mill who had spent the first six years of his life in a cage being used as a stud. They said that he was shy and ran away when approached. We filled out the requisite paper work and two weeks later Rob was on his way to us from Ohio.
The day I picked him up, Rob was a wreck; scared to death from his journey; the loud noises and strange people peering into his crate. He immediately slinked into Mimi’s bed refusing food or water. I knew that he would need time to acclimate, but after many hours of refusing food or water I began to worry that he might become ill from lack of nourishment. He was obviously hot and panting at intervals. I found an eye dropper and dropped some water into the corner of his mouth and I continued this during the day. He still flatly refused to eat anything until I placed a cube of cheese on the edge of the bed and left the room. Five or so minutes later I returned and to my relief, the cheese was gone. I repeated this a few times and was overjoyed when each time the cheese disappeared. We had survived our first day!
That night we put him in the bed with us and he stood stiff and still. He was so tense that he reminded me of a concrete yard statue. We turned out the lights and he remained standing. When I awoke thirty minutes later he had lain down next to me and had rested his head in the crook of my arm. I didn’t move the rest of the night and neither did he.
Going outside was the next obstacle. Rob was so frightened to go out that he would hide and we had to search for him. I was constantly worried that he would find a small space to squeeze through and escape. I knew that if that happened the possibility of our finding him would be slim. Those first few months we spent hours going over the fence and lattice making sure that there were no holes or weak places. Getting him to come in from outside was another challenge. The threat of our standing at the door was an obstacle too great for him to overcome. If I stood back until he came in, he would run back outside when I moved toward the door. After much trial and error I found that if I lay on the floor face down near the door he would come in and I could slowly move my arm out and close the door. This took fifteen minutes at a time.
My husband had to overcome a great deal of frustration when he had to remain at the front of the house when Rob was eating. If he so much as heard Jim’s footsteps Rob would run away.
Rob had no idea that dogs walked on a leash. He was so frightened to go outside of the yard that he trembled uncontrollably. I felt so bad for him that I fashioned a sling and carried him in it when we walked Mimi. This seemed to be a great comfort to him and he could observe the world around him while safe in his wrap. Gradually he was even comfortable enough for people we met on our walks to approach him and pet him without him cowering in fear.
We didn’t think that he could bark. Rob never uttered a sound until several weeks after he came to us. We were in the pool splashing and fooling around and I commented that I heard a strange dog barking. Our guests informed us that it was coming from the house and when we investigated we saw that it was Rob! Previously he had been terrified of the pool and refused to come out when we were swimming. Now he was barking to let us know that he wanted to be a part of the commotion! Over the next few weeks he delighted in barking at blades of grass, birds, cats, other dogs and even the wind, experimenting with the tone and pitch of his bark as though he was trying to find his own signature voice.
One day when he seemed particularly relaxed, I noticed something about Rob that had been missing; his little bobbed tail was up and ever so slightly wagging. For some reason that seemed to be a signal to me that our patience would pay off and that things would be alright.
Today, almost two years since he came to us, Rob has become a dog. He has studied Mimi’s behavior and learned so many things like how to kick the dirt after going potty, chasing a toy, running in the yard, riding in the snoopy boat in the pool, shaking hands for a treat and best of all, being stroked and petted. The high point of his day second to mealtime is bed time when he can snuggle under the covers and be petted and stroked to his heart’s content. He will never know how watching his metamorphosis has been the salve to soothe our sadness over the loss of our first Bichon love, Beau.
Now, when he sees the leash and harness he barks excitedly running in circles grabbing at it with his teeth. He has learned not to be afraid of rustling leaves, crunching gravel or the barks of other dogs. He sniffs and leaves responses to his “pee mail” every few feet. He has even become comfortable with people coming up to him and stroking him. On occasion he has been known to jump up and sit next to visitors waiting to be petted.
Rob has taught us so much about ourselves, especially how much patience we have, but most importantly, how crucial it is to leave the past behind and move forward. After this experience I truly believe that anyone who has not rescued a dog is depriving themselves of learning how much potential we have to learn, love and grow.
Tyler says, Small Paws is helping little doggies every day. Even me! They found me, kept me alive when I was full of parvo, and found me my furever home! Do you have a few dollars you can give?